Monica Torres LFD, LE, LC, Reconstruction Specialist and Desairologist
is affectionately known as “Cold Hands.” Cold Hands is a social media host that engages and offers formal education publicly to professionals and consumers regarding the dark art and medical science of modern embalming and other end of life options. Cold Hands openly offers a platform to discuss realities and taboos surrounding death, dying and the macabre. Cold Hands welcomes you on her journey to comfort the grieving and care for the dead. Join her on her infamous “red sofa” for interviews with bereaved families and professionals and join her in her “Prep Room” where she offers embalming tips and tutorials for professionals embalmers.
on December 6th 2018
My hands weren’t always cold, or were they? Over time working as an Embalmer in the chilling space we know as the prep room one’s hands may become chilled like everything else held in that room. The first time I my icy grip was made noticeable to me was when I was working at a funeral home in Florida in 2011. I had the honor of walking an elderly grieving widow down the long walk to her husband of 52 years for an open casket viewing. I noticed that her adult children had all ushered their own children and families down to the front pews without even taking a minute to think about how their elderly mother was going to feel upon entering the funeral home for the first time since her husband’s funeral arrangement 4 days prior. I immediately walked over to her and put my arm around her black lace shawl that covered her tiny bony shoulders and said “I am here dear; I will escort you down and we will go together.” Two large bellied tears fell from her stoic eyes and without a word we took that long walk together just as I had suggested. After we reached the casket her family must have realized their insensitivity when they saw a complete stranger consoling their mother and grandmother as she took the first look at her husband’s lifeless body lying in state. Sons, daughters and grandchildren all at once shuffled uncomfortably to make their way to her side pushing past me. At the end of the visitation I stood at the door guiding guests and family members to the exit. After exiting the widow pulled away from her family and walked over to me. Gently she reached out to me and offered her hand for a hand shake. Without hesitation, I took her hand in my own not expecting what came next. The old woman shuddered as her nose crinkled up and she said “OOOOOHHH lady your HANDS are COLD!” I was unsure of how to respond so naturally I smiled and hugged her. The old woman giggled and said, “I see you have Cold Hands………but a warm heart. Thank you for everything you have done.”
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